So now what do we do?

My husband is in long term care in the local hospital, awaiting a bed in the nursing home. I can no longer care for him at home, given his mobility issues and now his dementia. He has Parkinsons' disease and is in the 5th stage now, this is the stage with decreased mobility and he requires help with most daily functions.

When he was admitted to hospital, the regulations changed overnight. I went from being his wife who was allowed to visit regularly to someone who was barred at the door. Then an accommodation was made for us to visit in a separate room in the ER, all because I am not vaccinated against the Sars Covid-2 virus. Nick isn't vaccinated either. And the hospital is following the rules set by the health official for Renfrew County, which keeps all unvaccinated persons away from patients in the hospital unless they are palliative or end of life.

Then last Monday, another regulation came down and I cannot even visit my husband in that separate room in ER. I am not allowed any visits whatsoever. I have enlisted the services of a lawyer who is challenging the hospital on this, and is requesting an exemption for me on religious grounds. The problem we are encountering right now is that this is all happening over the Christmas season and people just aren't around to respond to these emails from the lawyer.

Meanwhile, as a backup, I put my name on a list to be vaccinated. And wouldn't you know it, I got a call that I can get "the jab" this coming Tuesday. And no word yet from the hospital or lawyer on the process of the claim for an exemption. So my dilemma has been do I get the jab in order to be able to see my husband (which will take 5 weeks anyway, second shot and two week wait period) or do I wait and see if the lawyer is successful?

Family members are saying get vaccinated, you have to see your husband, this is unfair on him. Trouble is, if I get vaccinated, that is not the end of it. There will be the boosters, first one three months after the second vaccine, and then further boosters every three months after that. There seems to be no end to this. Some say yes it will end, but it hasn't yet and it has been two years already and it is only getting worse.

So I will wait, because it is highly likely that they are going to move the goalposts yet again and, even should I get vaccinated, there will be some other requirement from the government with which I have to comply. And what about my husband? what will be required of him in all of this? will he have to be vaccinated too?

I think I must fight this and try to get a legal win against the hospital. Otherwise, I will cave in to all further demands and this tyranny is going too far.

So today is Christmas day and I will go to the hospital, and ask them to take Nick's present up to him and bring me down his dirty laundry. And wait for him to call. Yesterday he didn't phone and I was worried. I called the ward three times, asking them to get him to phone, and still no call. Finally he phoned and said he had called a dozen times that day, but I think he was dialing the wrong number. And no matter how many times I call his room, he never answers. I don't know if that phone isn't working or what, but I have never been able to reach him by phone. He can only reach call me.

So the state keeps us separated. Even now on any official documents, we are listed as "separated", as if we had mutually agreed to go our separate ways.